compare myself to other girls

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http://tinybuddha.com/blog/when-we-think-other-people-are-better-than-us/
I’ve suffered from depression at points in my life, and I’ve suffered from low self-esteem pretty much always.
It’s not an uncommon trait, comparing ourselves to others. But it seems to be a particularly bad habit for me. Perhaps because my brain is terrifically inventive; at my worst, I can find literally anything as proof that another woman is better than me.
She’s beautiful. She’s slim. She has a successful career. She has money. She’s married. She has nice clothes. She has brown eyes. She has blue eyes. She has smaller hands. She has a red top. She can walk faster than me.
I don’t always do it. If I’m feeling good about me, I can see a pretty woman while my boyfriend is with me and, although I do feel a slight pinch at my heartstrings, I’m able to disregard it fairly well.
But when I’m feeling low in confidence, seeing that pretty woman rips into my heart and brings tears to my eyes.
i create these comparisons all by myself.
They’re just people; it’s me who subscribes to the “she’s better than me” mindset, and me who judges that one of us is prettier, more successful, happier. I make all these comparisons and then berate myself, first for being a lesser being than them, and then later for being irrational and silly.
But as it is my reaction, and my brain, I have the power to do something about it.
As with all insecurities, thought patterns, and habits, it takes a lot of work, practice, and self-forgiveness to teach yourself to genuinely see your own awesomeness. For some of us it will be our life’s work.

Remember your strengths.

The more you become comfortable recognizing your strengths, the more armor you’ll have against negative thoughts.
We are all different and all beautiful. I believe this for other people, and so my goal is to believe it for myself as well.
If we work on our self-esteem and realize how lovely we are then other people won’t seem so threatening. Be kind, gentle, and nurturing to yourself and you’ll feel less of a need to make comparisons.